R-E-S-P-E-C-T

I will be the first to admit that I am FAR from perfect. Nothing about me, my life, or the way I look, act, or talk is perfect. Nothing visually 20180204_160940says she is imperfect like looking at a woman’s manicure. I just looked down and realized how badly I needed one! And then I struggle trying to figure out where in my day I am going to fit an extra hour and a half into my overly crowded schedule. Sometimes, I look down and think, “oh my God. My grandmother would be SO ashamed of me and the way in which I have maintained my nails.” Sometimes, my nails are chipped or broken or dirty. Some days, I walk into establishments dressed as the girliest girl in the place and other days, I look like…poop. Sometimes, I am dirty like a man. And I’m not just talking about my mouth (and for the peanut gallery out there, I have managed to reduce the number of bad words that come out of my mouth each day). If you’ve ever worked cows or welded, you know what kind of dirty I’m talking about. I can feel people looking down at me with a lack of respect because I don’t fit into “the box.”

But is that cause to be disrespectful to someone? Because they don’t fit into the same box or the same socioeconomic class or the same group of people or the same political party, church group…the list goes on. I have very strong opinions about what respect is and, like many, sometimes feel that I deserve respect because of how hard I have worked in life and what I have overcome. But sitting in church a few Sundays ago, I received a HUGE lesson on respect and what it means through God’s eyes. Not only was it humbling, it was disturbing.

We often think that respect is something that we are due. How many of you remember growing up and your parents would tell you that respect is earned- by the way you treat and interact with people. I don’t know about you, but I think we’ve lost that philosophy in life. We treat people how we feel they should be treated…based on how WE value them. We never give consideration to the fact that they are valued. No matter what. They are human beings. They have their own baggage and their own heartbreak and their own issues they are dealing with or going through.

We don’t give any consideration to the fact that they are divinely created and incredibly loved by our heavenly father. We don’t look at people and give them respect because we don’t stop and look at them through His eyes as being created in His image. We look at them and either disregard them or disrespect them because we look at them through OUR eyes. Through a worldly lens. We no longer give people the benefit of the doubt to grow into who God has destined them to be. We pigeonhole them into where we feel they should be 20180224_150848on our ladder of success or political gain or social status. We don’t give people the chance to be people. We treat them like…well, I was going to say, like animals, but if you’ve been in this house, you know our animals live like kings.

And don’t think I’m writing this because I’m immune to this. Actually, most of the stuff I write and post is because of something that I have done/seen/felt and God is trying to change my heart and the way I look at people. My life is anything but perfect, and that includes me and my actions towards others. I know I need to have a change of heart towards some, and that is something I pray about every day.

My takeaway from all of this is….RESPECT (and showing respect to others) says more about you and your heart and very little about the person with whom you are interacting. Do I DESERVE respect?  Probably not. Do I DEMAND respect.  Probably more than I should. Do I GIVE respect without hesitation? Yeah….anyway. Let me get back to you on that one. You don’t have to like or approve of someone to show respect. And just an FYI, respect and kindness are two completely different things. That’s another topic for another day. So my hope is that as the lines become more clear, and the divisions more radical, that we can learn to be kind again. Nice. Respectful.

Love, Peace, and Pie.

~RED

Be That Kind of Woman

Be the kind of woman that when your feet hit the floor each morning, the devil says, “oh crap, she’s up!”31543292_10101868473246921_7305333929878224896_n

Wake up and give thanks for the day! Don’t put stock in the devil’s lies he whispers. Turn up that praise and worship and hold on to the fact that you are divinely made and loved. Share a smile with someone and enjoy your day!

Peace, Love, and Pie!
RED

You Are Entirely Up To You!

This showed up in my FB memories today and ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh what a timely reminder. Something I wrote a year or two ago:31124723_10101864279481261_6672195152754245632_n

Rise and shine! This is the day you’ve been waiting for! Today, YOU get to decide who you are. You and only you! Don’t you hate annoying people like me first thing on Monday morning?
I’ve spent a lot of time in reflection the last couple of months and this weekend at the O2 women’s conference was the last piece of the puzzle for me as to deciding who I am and want to be.

“I am” are the two most powerful words you can speak over yourself because what you put after them can ultimately decide your fate, your future, your well being, and your happiness.

You have 2 choices today:

Continue to live as the victim of your life, to let other people speak over your life in a way that determines who you are, to live stuck without a chance for love, laughter, trust, peace, friendship, faith, belief in who you are. You can continue to live in a way that leaves you feeling in pain, depression, anger, or at the very best: Luke warm.

Or …

You can make the choice to be who you’ve always been created to be. When you make that decision… to move forward – to see yourself in the light in which you have been created – all of the negative “I am / You are” fall off of you like dead weight!

From this point forward, decide who you are, who you want to be, and start working towards that goal. It won’t be easy, you won’t always know how or what to do, but the movement forward, having faith in the bigger picture, and the growth you will experience will be all you need to stay the course!

Be you! Be fierce! Be alive!

Peace, Love, and Pie!
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